1. START THE DAY WITH A SMILE
Okay, you may be thinking - too simple, but truly, your whole day depends on how you greet the morning. Each time you smile you throw a little "feel good" party in your brain. The act of smiling activates neural messaging that benefits your health and happiness. Smiling activates the release of neuro-peptides that work toward fighting off stress, and the serotonin release brought on by your smile, serves as an anti-depressant/mood lifter. If you feel that forcing a smile isn’t for you, then take the time to look around the room your in, or step outside and look for something that puts a smile on your face. When you welcome your day with high spirits and gratitude, you step into the world empowered. So, smile! It doesn’t cost anything but is worth everything.
2. ASK FOR GUIDANCE AND LET IT BE
We all have different names for the higher power in our life. Call it what you will: God, Allah, Buddha, Source, or Divine Energy. What’s important is to make contact with your higher power daily and ask for guidance when you need it. Giving up control. Much of our stress and anxiety is caused by us trying to will our situations to be different from their current reality. By asking for guidance we surrender our control and allow ourselves to let it be. Having faith lets you off the hook from having to fix everything. It alleviate stress, overwhelm and anxiety, and allows you to recognize that you are not alone.
3. PLAN THE DAY AND VISUALIZE YOUR OUTCOMES
To avoid mistakes that will cause negative results on your daily achievements, that become negative thoughts, better to plan your work first; after which, work your plan. Make sure today's goals are clearly defined and absorbed by your mind. This can be done before you go to bed each night or first thing in the morning. When we clearly define our goals for the day we start with a desired intent toward accomplishment and purpose. A “to do” list keep us productive and on task, and research has shown that it actually helps with anxiety, brain power, focus, self esteem, and organization. Visualizing important goals and outcomes can rapidly accelerate your achievements. It also helps to activate your creative subconscious, programs your brain to recognize resources, and builds internal motivation.
4. KEEP YOUR MIND FOCUSED ON WHAT YOU WANT
Make sure that your mind is set towards your desired outcomes. Many times we know what we want, yet, we spend most of our day thinking about the fact that we DON’T have it. Money is always the perfect example. Most of us would like to see more funds in our bank account, however, rather than focusing on the achievement of it we focus on the NOT having of it. It’s important to set goals and priorities for what you want. Concentrate on your desired outcomes, but at the same time, take time to relax and enjoy the process.
5. BE DETACHED FROM THE OUTCOME
They say that life is like a Ferris Wheel; sometimes, you’re on the top, and sometimes at the bottom. This means that there will be times in our lives where things won’t turn out according to plan. It’s important to remember that we don’t always receive things in the way that we expect them. That is part of the fun of life. If we knew we could get what we wanted just the way we wanted all the time we would be bored. Part of the adventure of life is in the not knowing. Always strive for your personal best in everything you do. Only, don’t get attached on the results, working for the expected outcome, by passes the pleasure of the now and will only cause disappointments and upsets in falsely perceived failures.
6. TRY NEW THINGS OR LEARN SOMETHING NEW
See learning and change as opportunities. Learn to be a student of the world. Part of what makes life so fun for children is that they are open to all possibilities because they are in the mode of learning. It’s not until we hit adolescence and adulthood that we start to think that we know it all, thus closing doors on hidden opportunities. Try to see life as a new adventure each day and remember there’s nothing wrong in changing attitudes and routines when they are for the good and improvement of who you are and what you do. Learning something new in one area of our lives can trigger ideas in another. So curiosity and creative thinking go hand-in-hand. Through this, the flow of thinking is directed to improvement and helps us to live in the moment.
7. BALANCE YOUR DESIRES
Life itself is made up of opposites and duality – gain and loss, pleasure and pain, light and dark, male and female, love and hate, birth and death. This is how the cycle of life goes. We can never have all the good things in life at the same time. We only understand hate through our capacity to love. Wealth can only be expressed if there are people who have less financially. We cannot fully experience the joy of birth without the loss of death. Making life an “all or nothing” game is robbing our selves of the complexity and enjoyment of our creative capacities. Therefore in our desire to achieve it’s important to remember that all things exist in ebb and flow, and your desire will always be to create more. Understanding measure and moderation is a primary key to happiness.
8. BELIEVE IN THE UN-REALISTIC
Hoping for something to happen will only bring you disappointment, because your underlying belief is in the NOT having of it. If you are feeling that you will never achieve your desire then your focus is in the wrong place. You must put your focus on your desire, not your reality. Focus on you’re un-realistic. Say, you wish to lose weight, you must focus on the person you want to be, not the current person or situations that are causing the weight gain. Set goals that are believable for you to attain and act on appropriate measures within a reasonable period of time to achieve what you desire. Live the moments in steps that will lead you to your desired goal. When I gained 70 lbs of pregnancy weight I told myself “It took me nine months to put it on, I have to give myself nine months to take it off” and I did. No one can get slim overnight.
9. BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF
Know yourself. There is no other person in the world who can tell who you really are. Know your values, passions, favorites, and principles. Spend some quality time by yourself – hiking, reading, listening to music, day dreaming, and the like. Get to know yourself completely, see how far you can go physically, mentally, and emotionally. That is why the Buddha said that unless you kill your parents you will never be free; meaning killing the voice of the parents inside you. Get rid of your conscience so you can live in consciousness. Then you become aware of your life, and only you can decide what your life will be.
10. LOVE YOURSELF
Before you expect for other people to love and adore you, it is always you who needs to love yourself first. Love is a verb and not a noun. It is not something you get from another; it is something you choose to give. You must choose to love yourself. Make a positive commitment to yourself. Praise yourself as much as you praise others. Allow your selfishness to be constructive to your personal health and happiness and not a dirty word. When you start taking time to love yourself you will feel confident about yourself, you will have more acceptance of yourself and others, and positive thoughts will naturally begin to flow to your mind. Self love is not about narcissism, it’s about self acceptance, and self reliance. It’s when we let go of, blame, shame and anger and invite ownership, creation and power into our lives.
11. LAUGH MORE, LAUGH MORE, LAUGH MORE
Enjoy. Have fun. “Nothing kills the ego, like playfulness and laughter, when you start taking life as fun the ego has to die” Looking at the brighter side of life starts with appreciation for what you have. Alignment with yourself in the face of adversity is all you have and laughter is the best medicine, so they say. Whether your dis-ease is physical or emotional, a few laughs and giggles can help you throw away some of the heavy baggage such as anxiety, disappointment, or nervousness. Remember to let yourself off the hook. You don’t have to be right all the time, you don’t have to be responsible all the time, life is going to keep going on no matter the course, so take the time to just laugh at the absurdity of it, the pleasure of it, the joy of it, and put your ego to bed once in awhile.
12. BE CREATIVE WITH YOUR GOALS AND ACTIONS
It’s important to get clear with things you want to accomplish and what that accomplishment will mean for you in your life. Know your Why and make it BIG. The more important and personal your reason the stronger your motivation will be to get there. Risk big and big things happen. When you are certain of what you want to carry out in your life, a stronger mind and will power will exist within you. Then have fun with your goals, create pictures of you with your goal and keep it somewhere you can see it. Don’t worry if it feels silly at first, the more your mind takes it in, the more real it becomes and your mind will feel comfortable solving the pieces to the puzzle to achieve it. Allow yourself to dream, have fun with it, don’t take it too seriously but keep your focus on it, and watch what starts to happen!
13. PLAY WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE
Like energy attracts like energy, it’s one of the Universal principles. Einstein said, “Everything is energy that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy, this is physics.” Consciously choose to move away from negativity, gossip and judgment of others. Be positive and everywhere you go, where there are groups of people, look for optimistic ones. Associate with them, hang-out, discuss matters. They can help you build self-confidence and self-esteem. Eventually your own positive energy will naturally attract positive people.
14. MAKE IT A HABIT TO BE INQUISITIVE
Seek more information and attempt to understand all matters clearly. With more knowledge, there is also more power. We often fall victim to our assumptions of situations and the actions of others. Learn to stay open to receiving all the facts or taking the high road until the truth presents itself. When we make assumptions they tend to miss represent others and this can lead us down negative paths, caused by situations that most likely have nothing to do with us. Don’t rely on others to inform your world; ask questions, seek information, so you can see your own path in all things.
15. BE OPEN TO YOUR OWN IGNORANCE
We have to accept the fact that we don’t know everything. And that we are continuously learning every place we go, with every person we meet and as everyday passes. Don't close your mind to new ideas and information that comes your way. There is ultimately something good that comes out of every situation, if we choose to see what that good is. Sometimes that takes time, but we must stay open, if we are to truly see the gifts people bring to our lives. Learning to say “yes” more can bring unexpected surprises. Thus, we should accept worthy things that may help us become better and brighter people. “Remember you cannot hold bliss in your fist, you can only hold bliss with an open hand.”
16. HAVE TRUST IN YOURSELF AND OTHER PEOPLE
Although it may seem difficult and risky to give trust to just anybody, when you believe in them or are confident on what they are doing for you, doubts and negative judgments on them will be unnecessary. It’s important to remember that if you, are taking care of you, there is nothing anyone else can do to you. Our fear of trust comes from a victim mentality that allows others to hold power over who we are. We must begin with the innate goodness we are all born with, remembering that ultimately we are all looking for acceptance and love. By trusting others you give the space to trust in yourself. Your life then becomes filled with harmonious relationships between you and all that come in contact with you.
17. FORGIVE EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT WILLING TO FORGET
Focusing on mistakes and failures are the root causes of negative thinking. If we somehow learn to let go of all the pain, agony, and fear we try to keep inside our hearts and minds, then there will be nothing more to block our creative thoughts from being expressed. Forgive yourself for committing mistakes even if you can't forget these mistakes. Mistakes are just that Miss Takes and there is always another chance to learn and move forward. When we learn to forgive ourselves we learn to forgive others and learn a deeper understanding of our connectivity with humanity. We free ourselves from false perceptions of perfection and allow playfulness and joy back into our lives.
18. LEARN FROM LIFE EXPERIENCES
Learning inside the classroom is different from learning in the world. In school, one learns the answers first before taking an exam; while in real life, one takes the test first before learning the answers. These tests in life are our experiences. If you fail a test, i.e. create an outcome you don't desire, simply evaluate the situation, your actions and then learn the answer to your problem. From there, you can avoid committing the same mistake twice. Being a perpetual student of life allows us to keep a positive outlook on the journey and experiences we face along the way. When we allow ourselves to learn and grow we elevate the stress of failure in our lives. The fear of success dissipates because we are more focused on the lesson. Success then becomes an outcome of our actions rather than a destination point to be hit or missed.
19. SEE YOUR BLESSINGS
Focus on what you have rather than what you don’t have. Going back to our understanding of energy attracting like energy, when we focus on what we don’t have we set our thoughts to a lack mentality. Our energy flow is that of a victim rather than an receiver. We set ourselves up for jealousy and judgment through comparison, which robs our focus of what it is we are trying to create. Instead, be thankful and grateful with what you have in this moment. Gratitude creates an open heart and an open heart is always ready to receive. Research has shown that gratitude reduces a multitude of toxic emotions, from envy and resentment to frustration and regret. It also confirms that gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces depression. Receptive energy creates just that, receptivity, allowing people and situations to help us achieve our dreams.
20. TELL YOUR WORRIES GOODBYE
At the end of every day, before going to sleep, there is no need to keep bad experiences and unhappy moments that have happened in the day within you. Take the time to let them go, throw them out the window and kiss them goodbye. Worry is a mind habit, like biting our nails and in order to stop this debilitating habit we must consciously acknowledge it and then let it go. This excessive worry doesn't just affect your mental health; it also can wreak havoc on your physical well being. Worriers are more likely to have aches and pains, as well as, general anxiety disorder. Most worry is connected to trust issues. Finding your spiritual connection is an important component in letting go of worry. Life will always be a mystery. So, dream sweetly. As a new day unfolds, new hope arises. Keep believing. Always have faith in that which you cannot yet see.
21. GIVE BACK
Everyday take the opportunity to give back. Giving back doesn’t have to be big and it doesn’t need to be with money. Giving back can be in the smallest of actions. Allow the other driver in when they want in your lane, hold the door for a stranger, pay a toll for the person behind you, or lend a hand when you see a need. Studies have shown that people who give back have, lower blood pressure, increased self-esteem, less depression, lower stress, longer life and greater happiness. Giving back allow us to take a breather from self judgment and self obsession, which create negative feelings. So lighten up a little, enjoy the moment and remember to give back once in awhile.