Deciding to end a relationship can be a very difficult journey. It can feel quite confusing, scary, as well as, physically and emotionally destabilizing. These feelings often lead a person wondering if “they are doing the right thing” and if so, “What is the best way to end it”, if there really is a best way?

Ideally it would be good to end a relationship on good terms and without too much drama and pain.  Unfortunately, the reality is that ideal endings to a relationship don’t happen very often. Instead, relationships often end badly, leaving behind feelings of anger, hurt and sadness. 

Much of this anger and sadness comes from our struggle with co-dependency in our relationships. When we enter a relationship we are often

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You Don’t Fall In Love, You Fall In a Hole.

Do you often think, “My life would be so much easier if I could simply pick the right person to be part of my life?” The truth is, other than your family, this really isn't that hard to do.  The first thing you have to do to find the right person, is to be the right person, and to do that you need to know who you really are.

It’s important, before looking for that ideal mate, to take a long hard look at yourself and what is it you truly want.  This is the best way to ensure that the person you meet will have similar interests, attributes, and most important, values!  If you don't really know who you are at your core, and are only familiar with who you hope to be, or worse, who you hope someone else will recognize in you, it will be very difficult to find a sustaining relationship.

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